Every day, we either break or build or do both. Sounds weird? Don’t worry, it’ll make sense once you’ve read the whole post.
Photography by Meher Gandhi.
We ‘break’ or ‘build’ not only ourselves but even, our surroundings.
Each day, we wake up with the hope to have a great day. Some of us (like, me, sometimes) even promise ourselves to have a great day even if we are bound to come accross obstacles. Doing this regularly, helps us in building a mental strategy which keeps on poking us whenever we feel low. Only if we practise it regularly. Here, we built an environment which helps us in staying calm, even if it’s for some time only.
Suppose you start the day like this, by hoping and promising to have a great day ahead. But somehow or the other, you are unable to cope up with the ‘staying-happy-no-matter-what concept’ and you just lose your senses and your temper. You might feel nervous, angry or even tired. Now, you are no more in the self-created optimistic arena. What did you just do? You broke the shield you created within you. You let go of the positive surrounding and now, you’ve entered into a totally different space, which, in this case, is a gloom-ridden one.
This is how we build and break the shields within us but, this is not all. Continue reading to know how consciously or unconsciously, you break or build the surroundings (which do not concern you) and the people you find in them, and trust me, that’s worse.
We all are in somewhat or the other way similar to each other. If you’ve read all of my posts, you’ll probably know that in one of the posts, I wrote “our struggles are exactly what make us similar.” We do have many more things in common. We all love to be loved, we all love to be appreciated and we all love to pamper ourselves. We all love to run after success, even if it’s at the cost of someone else’s. Isn’t it? Another thing which makes most of us similar is that we all love to be looked at respectfully but, we often forget to look at others in the same light. Oh well, when was the last time you encouraged someone – somebody you don’t know too well but do know a bit? If you are able to remember then that’s awesome! You just built and boosted up the confidence and energy level in the person! If he/she was in ‘defectum sui fiducia’ (lack of self confidence) mode then, you just cleared it all!
Do a bit of self-assessment and answer this question honestly: When was the last time you tried to tell somebody that they were horrible at doing something, even if they weren’t quite bad at it?
Now, there can be two kinds of effects that can be observed in the person you had the interaction with. Either the person can be so thick-skinned that your views won’t matter or the person can be quite sensitive who is forced to believe that he/she is truly bad at doing the job, just because you said so. See what you did? You didn’t affect the person in the first case, but you broke the enthusiasm and confidence wall that the one in the second case created (mind you, with difficulty). You probably demotivated the future’s great artist, singer, writer, dancer, orator or anybody at all. Honestly, that’s a huge loss.
All I’m trying to say is that we all need incentives to work. Some of us are able to successfully build them up on our own, for our own selves. But, some of the people are unable to do it; some of them rely on the reaction they get from their audience, always. Why not understand this and help each other out? Instead of breaking each other’s strengths, why not build them?
A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.
~ James Keller
Let us all make those ‘notes to self’. Let’s not steer the wheels of other people’s lives, let’s push them to do it themselves.
Let’s all live and let live, happily.
Now read the first line of this post. Does it make sense?
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